Group Work: Mir-Yam-Tyo

1] MENTAL HEALTH

A crisis in identity?

Things related: multiple personality disorder, bored of themselves, not exposed to enough masculinity, afraid to be themselves, confident as woman.

A smile hides everything

Things related: fake smiles, afraid to seek help, unaware of help, people are not interested to ask, depression, trust issues with people.

Counseling relieves everything,especially in groups

Things related: Friends, empathy, help, variety of advice, overcoming problems, relieves burden, someone to talk to, not alone

2] HEALTH AND FOOD

Eating too much unhealthy food will lead to obesity

• -          People with obesity has higher risks of getting diseases
• -          Sleeping after having a meal is not a good habit 

Healthy food VS unhealthy food. Which one do you prefer?

• -          Balanced diet is important
• -          Every classes of food has its own function

Kids  nowadays  should be teach to eat a lot of food that contains nutrients

• -          Usually, kids dislike eating healthy food because of the taste
• -          Kids prefer eating sweet and oily food
• -          The parents have to encourage the kids to eat a balanced diet since they were little

3] HEALTH AND BEAUTY

Caption: Men want to be pretty too.

Things that related: Recently, it’s not only women which give extra attention to their body and face but also men. This lead to changes in the lifestyle of men such as they went to spa for massage, facials, manicures and pedicures, survey for a suitable beauty products and get hair treatment once or twice a month. Now, there are also men who become a founder for a beauty product and more knowledgeable about beauty compared to women. Looking at the picture, there is a man with beard having a facial treatment in a spa and he is looking calm and relaxes. This is obviously a good thing but then, there are also problems when men are too focused to become pretty and obsessed with themselves. It’s kind of weird and annoying people in some ways.

Caption: Let’s go to gym and fight for impressive physical figure.

Things that related: When we said that a person has a good figure, it means that her body has shape, especially a woman and this considered to be attractive. A good body frame cannot be achieved by free but people must work for it. As you can see in the picture, there are two men and a girl pops in earphones are running in a gym. Any exercise is good exercise but running is one of the most efficient ways to burn calories for weight loss. Working out to your favourite fitness playlist can help you to go up to 20% longer and burn more calories. Music blocks fatigue, produces feelings of vigour, and helps you keep pace by synchronizing your movements.

Caption:  Bear the sickness for a glimpse of beauty.

Things that related: Plastic surgery definition and how widely it spread in world regions. Factors lead to plastic surgery. Improvements in technology of medical tools and machines. Increase in numbers of people which had plastic surgery. Types of famous and common procedures done these days are liposuction, eyelid surgery, breast implants, nose jobs, face lifts, and Botox injections. Recovery times is vary because it depends to the patient's body metabolism.

Hope all of you enjoy reading this. Thank you. 😊

Media Power

          Nowadays, people are often insecure about themselves especially about their bodies. This insecurity is really common among adolescents as they are going through puberty and they are just discovering their body. Everyone wants the perfect body but what really is a perfect body. Media plays a big part in this as most tv shows and movies showcase actors and actresses who are perfect and flawless. While uncontrollably adding fuel to the flames, media can also help adolescents overcome developing a negative body imagine through different possible ways and this is what I'd like to address in today's entry.

 1. Advertisement

Nike's recent sports bra on Instagram receives "body positive' praise online. The post, titled "Welcome to Sports Bra 101," features a photo of a curvy model stretching her arms while wearing only sports bra on top. Commenters praised the brand for featuring a plus-size model on the account, which typically features slender types. Other praised the body positivity demonstrated by the picture, nothing they could relate to the model.

2. Songs 

Alessia Cara (Scars to Your Beautiful) - Coldplay (True Love) 

In Scars To Your Beautiful, we can hear how the artist highlighting this particular point where you should never turn yourself into someone your are not just to look beautiful cause you are beautiful just the way you are.

But there's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark
You should know you're beautiful just the way you are
And you don't have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
Oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh
And you don't have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful

and from Coldplay's True Love song we can see how the music video expressing about self love and how we should be grateful for who we are. Despite all the hate and judgment we get from other, we should learn to accept ourselves and start loving our-self first. Just click on the link below to watch the music video.

Coldplay True Love

3. Films

Usually in the filming industries, the directors and producers would pick "perfect actors and actresses" with perfect bodies and nice skin because they obviously wanna make the movie attractive by introducing perfect actors which indirectly become a role model to the viewers. On the other hand, this is not really necessary as there are some films who don't look at this factor when hiring actors. For example in the movie Pitch Perfect, they hired Rebel Wilson to play this character called "Fat Amy". On top of that, she embarrassed herself for who she is and inspired others with insecurities that it doesn't matter how you look like as long as you are happy and you love yourself.

4. Newspaper & Tabloid

Reporters should play a role on showcasing inspiring news such as inspiring and motivating people who have insecurities about themselves. This is because media is usually the source of information and I think people can really benefit by reading articles and news like this. For an example. this article based on Demi Lovato can give motivation and inspiration to other people who are suffering from their individual problems. 

http://www.billboard.com/articles/columns/pop-shop/6715454/demi-lovato-confident-interview-video

All in all, media can help in many ways to overcome developing a negative body image. However you guys should know that media can only give a motivations, so it's up to the each and everyone of us to change and improve ourselves. Appreciate ourselves. You choose to be happy yourself, not others. 

Lots of love,

Iqbal, Layla, Eiman, Zahir

EATING DISORDERS

Hi guys ! For today's entry, me, Hadri and Usman will be talking about eating disorders. First thing you need to know is that this disorder is not gender-biased. It happens to females and also males too. Eating disorders are real, complex, and devastating conditions that can have serious consequences for health, productivity, and relationships. Eating disorders are serious, potentially life-threatening conditions that affect a person’s emotional and physical health.

The main reason is because they constantly feel INSECURE !!! They are not satisfied with their body shape and they are always being pressured by the judgemental society.

In the United States, 20 million women and 10 million men suffer from a clinically significant eating disorder at some time in their life, including anorexia nervosa, binge eating disorder and bulimia nervosa. Many individuals struggle with body dissatisfaction and the best-known contributor to the development of anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa is body dissatisfaction. By age 6, girls especially start to express concerns about their own weight or shape. 40-60% of elementary school girls (ages 6-12) are concerned about their weight or about becoming too fat.

BINGE EATING DISORDER

Binge eating disorder is a type of eating disorder where a person eat large quantities of food (often very quickly and to the point of discomfort) but without behaviors to prevent weight gain, such as self-induced vomiting. 

BULIMIA NERVOSA

Bulimia nervosa is a serious, potentially life-threatening eating disorder characterized by a cycle of bingeing and compensatory behaviors such as self-induced vomiting designed to undo or compensate for the effects of binge eating. Some of the symptoms of bulimia are frequent episodes of consuming very large amount of food followed by behaviors to prevent weight gain, such as self-induced vomiting, a feeling of being out of control during the binge-eating episodes and self-esteem overly related to body image.

de toute beauté

Hye peeps,

So here, I'm going to write about a word "beautiful". Men and women are two distinct creatures but for me, they can be “beautiful” in same way and it actually depends on how you perceive the meaning of beauty. Men’s figure are obviously different if compared to women but now, I would like to ignore that aspect and the same way that I intended should be is the personality of both gender. When I mentioned personality, it can best describe as the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character. This can be referred to the way they talk, how their face expression, level of hygiene care, and the way they solve problems in critical situation. All of this cannot be made by make-up and it will naturally convey from our soul through our own actions, expression and appearance in the real world. That’s what called inner beauty enhances someone’s physical beauty.

Next, man is believed to be beautiful if he has a symmetrical face and body. Symmetrical men are much more attractive than asymmetric man. A good symmetry sign good genes and we all look for subtle genetic indicators when choosing mate. Next, men should get an average crop of facial hair. Man with full beard is not exactly attractive although it can depict masculinity and aggressiveness. Stubble is sexier than full beard or clean shave man. Lastly, men should get to the gym and work for bigger muscles because it’s look beautiful in some women’s eyes. Bigger muscles are sign of good health and good genes and this subconsciously attract women to choose them as future husband.

For women, they’re believed to be a beauty when they have a flawless skin without considering the colour of their skin. Flawless skin can be an indicator that they take a good care of their body and appreciate what they have. Next, beautiful women are one with fun-loving spirit. A woman will taste disappointment in her life just like everyone else. The point is, a sense of adventure and appreciation for all that life has to offer is more attractive that relentlessly sticking to routine and taking life's opportunities for granted. Finally, women with great passion also seem to be beautiful. They understand that life is too precious to speed along without enjoying the ride. These kind of women love to enjoy all that life has to offer, not just her partner or her relationships because passion is contagious. Watching someone pursue her dreams is just about the most beautiful experience human beings can have.

That's all. Have a nice day 

YOU ARE FLAWLESS!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Basically, everybody will think about the same thing when they hear about this quote. For me, this quote really is meaningful because it opens my eyes about someone’s beauty. Have you ever heard somebody compliments you? How do you feel about that? And how do you react on it? Do you think they are sincere when they said that?
 (she is so damn pretty T-T)

 What if you think that you are not pretty or handsome but still someone compliments you .ahhhaaa!! This is when the quote works. If they think you are beautiful, then you really are beautiful. It is not the matter of flawless and skinny or having fair skin, but it depends on the eyes that are looking. Someone might think that you are pretty but you still cannot deny that maybe some people think that you are not (don’t kill them). That is why, we cannot judge what people see. It is not applicable to prettiness only. It can be someone’s perception on other things such as colour or scenery.  Like me, I love purple and blue. I don’t really like green and yellow because I think they are so shiny lol. But I don’t hate people who like green (cc: Hanis) because they have their own perception on what they love. Have you ever seen loving couple who are not suitable to each other (in your perception) like maybe the guy is too handsome for that girl (it often happens when you have crush on him (#me)  hahaha) or that girl is so damn pretty but she got  an average looking guy (in your perception #again)  as her boyfriend. No no no. we cannot judge. Maybe for them, their partner is the most handsome or pretty human being in the world. (but I really hate people who post about their partner everyday every time every minute erghh!!)

Everybody must have a bucket list of the characteristics that they want in their partner (you do , don’t lie). But don’t get surprised if you get someone that is not even fulfill your dream list. Those are all fate that cannot be dodged as a human. To conclude, despite all the judgements that you get, the most important thing that you must have is confident. Confident can change everything (but don’t be over confident) . Just love yourself because nobody will do.

   

Lots of love, Layls.

MEDIA BEAUTY

hello peeps , yesterday my teacher gave me a task to write an entry blog about this english proverb . WHY? this is because we just did an some questions on a text about manorexia . For your information manorexia is men with eating disorder . It is similar with anaroxia but kinda different .

                   
enough with this nonsense , let's move on with proverb.

   There is a proverb in english : ' Beauty is in the eye of the beholder '. I find this proverb partially true ,  it depends on what the individual is observing . For instance , if one is an art student and a science student (not stereotyping) is observing a Pablo Picasso artwork they would not have the same perception of it . For example :
                                             
Amir Farhan : This painting is full with aesthetic values , the most gorgeous thing i've ever seen !                                LEGIT !!
Aminin Aqil : What the hello is this? ughhh ....

So , basically beauty is something that is very subjective to an individual . Sometimes beauty can be manipulated by culture , religion or even the media . Nowadays most people perception of beauty is influenced by how the media perceive beauty . It shows that beauty can be manipulated and control through authority that is the media . The media would say that ladies with fair skin and voluptuous body would be the most beautiful , and we can see through how they choose the most sexiest women alive which mostly fit the criteria that i just given . Well this is just my opinion on how beauty is perceived nowadays and i hope this statement doesn't trigger you guys .

Beauty : Is it gender-neutral or gender-biased?

Hi guys! So for today's entry, I'll be discussing about "are men and women beautiful in the same ways?"

WHAT MAKES A BEAUTIFUL MAN

  Generally stating, a beautiful man or a good looking man is always associated with a nice and lean physique and is well dressed. Even though many people, mostly men, strongly disagree with that statement because most of them do not have a lean physique or a muscular build, and yet people still love them the way they are. People are easily triggered with this stereotype because they're afraid that they might not fit the requirements and probably get rejected by the society. Don't get it wrong. Most surveys conducted to show what society, in general, describes a good looking man, are based on their expected first impressions if they were to meet a man for the first time. The results can also be influenced by their background culture. For example, Asians might not think that white men are attractive because they all look the same while white women might prefer white men because they don’t prefer Asians with slit eyes. But don't be sad, this is only a general statement. Because the most important thing is the beauty within a person.       

David Beckham

WHAT MAKES A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN

  What makes a beautiful woman? Beautiful women are always seen as someone who has a tight body and is fair skinned and is flawless in every aspect. Lol. Women, like men are also easily triggered when it comes to beauty. People in Malaysia might prefer those criteria however those in the Europe or in The States might prefer tanned skin rather than pale white. This shows that our background culture really influences our taste and perception towards beauty. Women also think that being supremely thin is also considered a beauty. But those are just my two cents, since this is a very subjective and also arguable. We can conclude that roughly what makes a man or a woman beautiful is the external and internal aspects, (the inner and the physical beauty). But, if we narrow down we can see that there are distinctive criteria which to some extent, are gender-biased. For example, majority of the society might perceive a buff and muscular woman as unattractive. Only muscular males are considered attractive (not entirely). Basically, the way we consider a person to be beautiful is roughly the same for both genders.

Emma Watson

Beauty Is An Illusion

When I was in high school, I was surrounded by friends who were constantly beautifying themselves. They would start the day with Safi Day Cream and end it with Safi Night Cream. They would wear face masks on weekends and apply toner on their daily basis. Being an inquirer as usual, I would asked my friends why were they doing what they did. One of them smiled at me and said " To look pretty lah". 
                    " To Look Pretty"
This kinda triggered me because the last time I checked, beauty came from the inside. Not from applying tons of cream onto your face. I only nodded to my friend and continued doing my work. The next day, I told my friend about what happened and I complained to her that people wasted too much time in becoming "beautiful". She laughed at me for being mad over that and said something that I will always remember (unless I have Amnesia). She said " Human's definition of beauty will never be the same unless all of them were the same person". I was surprised with what she said because she never uttered something philosophical. But she was right. 
Beauty's definition will never be absolute. It will vary from person to person until the end of time. Hence bringing us to the proverb ;

If my friends back in high school saw beauty as having flawless, fair skin, then who can argue. If my definition of beauty was having a kind and warm personality, then that's it. What I see beautiful will always be different from what others see is beautiful. That's the thrill of being a human. We are so subjective. For example, Im pretty sure we were once told that men will fall in love with women who looked like the models we saw on Victoria Secret Models. That might be true, but only to some extent. We dont see all men going off marrying a woman who used to be a runaway model. No. In reality, some men might like woman who are short rather than tall, who are a bit plump rather than slim. It always vary.

When Izzue Islam who is considered handsome to people married his manager who was a bit older than him and was quoted "average looking", people condemned him for not choosing a younger, more beautiful wife. Izzue Islam responded by saying " I dont care what other peole say, the important thing is me and her fit together and we love each other.". The fact that Izzue Islam thought her wife was beautiful and ignored what the critics were saying, makes the proverb "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" more meaningful.

Beautiful men & women

Hi guys, this post is another assignment that I was assigned by my lecturer. To be honest, this entry's topic is about something I don't know much about. Just note that everything I write here is only from my point of view. I believe each and everyone of us have their own opinion. Beauty is very subjective. It's not limited to looks. It can be a behaviour or an emotion. So the question is, what makes a beautiful man and woman?

Most men always strive for their dreams. One of the things that acts as a catalyst that motivates them is their ego. Just to be clear, ego is not specifically limited to negative things only. However sometimes ego may bring harm to oneself. That is why men should know when to let go of their pride. In certain circumstances, he will admit his own flaws and mistakes. He's not afraid to face the bad perception of others to admit his mistakes and to learn something new. Whether he's a friend or a family, when you see a man let go of their pride, to help you or to let you know that he cares, then you should keep in mind that he treasures his relationship with you more than their ego and pride. However, my small advice to men is that you too, have a heart. That is why sometimes, you have to let people know that.

As for women, for me, a woman is beautiful when she face through hardships and don't give up to achieve her goal. Most women have a fragile heart. They easily get emotionally stressed especially when it comes to something she really care about. I know someone who really showed that beauty to me. People condemned her, saying bad things about her. Some took her for granted and treated her badly. She was hospitalised for weeks before. Then she got her test results for that particular semester and it was unsatisfactory. Despite all that, she stayed and keep on trying. She may got some encouragements from others but it's her own heart who made a move to not give up. That act really amazed me even until now.

Like I said, this entry is only from what I think. It's true to some extent only. That is all from me for this entry. Stay cool and be yourself. Send good vibes to others and appreciate what you have now. Comments are really appreciated, thank you. :)

BEAUTY TO YOU AND ME

Hey pals ! I’m here again to discuss a topic that kind of reflects ourselves and our own opinion and perceptions. This topic sometimes creates arguments and debates between two different parties or group of people because of contrasting perspectives regarding this matter. However, we must open our mind that it is something that is viewed differently by each individual.

It is BEAUTY - a characteristic of an animal, idea, object, person or place that provides a perceptual experience of pleasure or satisfaction or generally, the quality of being physically attractive. When, I say BEAUTY, everyone has their own image and opinion about it. Some might think having fair skin is beauty. Some might say having high nose is beauty. Some might say having ‘nike’ style eyebrows is beauty. You see, different people have different perception of beauty.‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ is one of the most familiar proverb to us that we often hear when talking about beauty. It literally means BEAUTY is something subjective that we can’t be judged objectively. If someone finds something is beautiful or attractive, it doesn’t that you will find it appealing too.

BEAUTY can be different according to perceptions and perspectives of different people. For example, Pierce Brosnan, an Irish actor, finds that fat girls are attractive and yet he married his wife who is fat and chubby and lived happily until now. 

BEAUTY can also be different according to cultural factors. For example, the people of Kayan Tribe in Thailand think that having long neck is beautiful and elegant. The longer the neck, the more beautiful you are! 

Mauritanian people think that women with big sized body is attractive and beautiful but here in Malaysia, being slim, fit and skinny is considered beautiful. See? Different, right? 

Also, I found that the perspective of beauty might change and differ according to time and mindset of people. Somehow, I think, people’s perspective towards BEAUTY are influenced by the trends and beauty standard at certain era. For example, during the 1990’s having thin eyebrows are considered beautiful and everyone shaved their eyebrows to make it thin and neat as possible. However, nowadays, people tend to have thick and ‘nike’ style eyebrows. Women start to draw thick eyebrows and make it as ‘fleek’ as possible.

These are some people that are beautiful to MY eyes. 

BEAUTY is something that is very subjective. Don’t think that your kind of ‘beautiful’ is the same as other people’s ‘beautiful’. Keep in mind that we have different minds so logically, we also view and perceive something differently too.